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What's the fuzz about LOVE?

There are so many instances and insights about this topic. May mga very pessimistic who's saying na nagpapakatanga ka lamang pag ika'y nagmahal. Some are very understanding that in the end, martyr ang kinalabasan. Some are also born dreamers, na laging umaasa and umaasa hanggang di na nila napapansin ang mga pangyayari sa paligid. But let's not forget that true love still exist. May mga tao pa ring tunay despite the fact that we're living in this materialistic and sexually-oriented world.

First situation: mahal mo ngunit may mahal na iba. Naku po.. ang hirap na sitwasyon. Late at nights you're thinking of them but naiisip mo din kung ikaw ba din iniisip niya? And you just found out the next day na may nililigawan pala or kung babae naman eh may kras pa lang iba. And suddenly your world breaks down. Nawawalan bigla ng imik. Tapos maya maya eh iiyak na lang sa isang tabi asking urself bat ka nagpakatanga. The hardest thing eh pag ung mahal mo eh ung one of ur closest friends kc ok lang sana kung di mu kakilala, kc madali mong maiiwasan pero pag friend mo, everyday mo xa kasama then everyday ka din masasaktan, especially pag nakikita mong masaya ung kaibigan mo. Bigla mong natatanong sa sarili mo.. "bat xa nagustuhan mo? ako naman etong laging anjan para seo?".. tsk tsk..

Second situation: same sex rel. uso na to ngaun pero still sa mata ng karamihan, this isn't right. Ang hirap neto coz it's the so-called forbidden love.. pero what can we do if they really do love each other? Let them do what makes them happy. Kasalanan ba ng isang tao na umibig na para sa kanya ay perpekto? Ang tanging kaibahan nga lang eh nde eto ung 'normal' na nakikita ng madla. Ngunit sa panahon naten ngaun, wala nang imposible, pede na sa lahat.. LOL. Isa pang isyu na lumalabas dito eh ang mga ganitong relasyon ay di nagtatagal. Pero sino ba tau para manghusga? True love have the possibility to last no matter what gender u are. It always depends sa tao not based on sexuality.

Third situation: Long distance relationships. Hmm.. i think marami senyo makakarelate neto. What comes into mind sa mga "mas nakakaalam na parang cnong may alam" eh long distance relationships are just sweet from the start and ends bitterly. I totally disagree. Long distance relationships last if only the two parties have trust with each other, there's honesty, there is love and with God's grace, yea, everything can become possible. Yeah if u really dont know kung anu ung pinasukan mo, u will really be full of doubts if this will work.. but if you believe in it, magic can happen.

Fourth Situation: Third Party. Waaaaaaa.. pinakamasaket na thing na malalaman mo. Ako, personally, i'd rather know the truth from the person than know it from somebody else. What's the point of cheating? In the end, lahat naman masasaktan. Some describe it to be fun, but not really. Ang hirap, u won't have a peace of mind and ur just fooling urself. Siguro, they find the "fun" from the excitement of being caught. It's like oh yeah.. i can go on.. he/she will never know naman. Waa.. lintek yan! Where's the loyalty? Di nila naiisip that they are crushing somebody' heart bit by bit. Ang masakit pa, minsan, nde lang third party.. may fourth and fifth pa.. haha! hahayyy.. tao nga naman.. pag nawala ang isang tao dahil sa kagaguhan na ginawa ng kabilang party, eh dun pa magsisisi at dun pa sasabihin na mahal ka niya. There's only one thing to say to that.. that totally sucks. Hindi man lang niya naisip yan when they were still together. Words are not enough. Sometimes actions speak love.

Fifth situation: Kamartyran. Wapakkkk!!! Naku naman.. This is the thing of the past. Sometimes, you have to accept what the people who cares for you tells you. You must have the sense of differentiating the truth from fantasy. Minsan kahit na obvious na ika'y pinagtataksilan.. tanging pinaiiral eh ang katangahan. Pilit na pinagatatakpan ang katotohanan at umaasang ito'y nde totoo. Minsan kelangan mo pa ng isang masakit na paraan ng pagkamulat upang tuluyang matanggap. But the people that you can lean at these times are your true friends but not at all times this is the case.

Sixth situation: When an option has to be done. Until now, this still happens. First instance, when the parents don't like ur bf/gf. That's really a big hassle. Laging patago until the time comes that you make up lies just to help your relationship survive. This is really bad trip. Whether you like it or not, it can affect one's relationship with both -- with ur lover and with ur parents. But how come? Why is there no easier way for things to happen smoothly? That's one question that I couldn't answer. Only God knows. Second instance, the influence of friends. Ehemmm ehemm ehemm. True friends will always be there for us through thick and thin but what if there will come a time that we have to choose between them and your lover? This is the case pag ayaw ng friends mo sa iyong lover. But I guess for both relationships to survive i think that friendship can also have its borderline. It's like yeah, guide me and give me advices if you think that i'm already suffering but not all the time. There should be that line that tells.. "oops, nasasakal na ata kita bilang kaibigan". A person has its own brain to think and make decisions, that is, if only the person is mature enough.

Seventh situation: Secret Love. Hahayyyss.. anu ba naman.. katorpehan ang pinaiiral. Even girls. This is the new generation everybody can make a move.. naku po mga babae! minsan ung mga lalake pa ang nahihiyang lumapit.. LOL.. Ang nakakatawa pa eh ang tanging lumalabas sa bungaga eh.. "Letse! Hinde ako pinansin!" o di kaya eh "Ano ba problema niya? Gusto niya ba ako o hinde?" so all i can say is haha!.. better not waste ur time.. coz time is precious.. anything might happen and u might regret it later on. So.. make a move!

Eighth Situation: Bakit Ngayon Ka Lang? Hmm.. what if ur in a relationship and then u fell in love with somebody else and u think that he/she is the right person for you? Dba ang hirap nun? You don't know what to do kasi ayaw mo din masaktan ung karelasyon mo. Malalagay ka sa alanganin lalo na kung pareho niyong gusto ang isa't isa. Pero that's how life works. Life and love wouldn't be exciting hanggang di ka dumaan sa butas ng karayom. LOL. This would lead sa previous situation .. the third party one.. There's one quote that i think has a point but i partially disagree with it. "Being a third party doesn't always mean you always ruin a relationship but you're also helping those people involved to realize that they are not meant for each other." Masakit noh? pero sometimes, this can be true.

Ninth Situation: Denial. This situation is inspired by my friend's story. There are some things that we ought to deny even though we know deep inside what's the truth and who we really are. We're just afraid to accept the reality. In the case of my friend, he cares a lot for his bestfriend who's also a guy and talks about him so much. But when I asked him if he LIKES him.. he said YES.. and if he LOVES him, he also said yes.. but.. as a bestfriend only. Even though there are already so many witnesses of their so-called friendship, they can't deny the fact that they do love each other ROMANTICALLY. They are just afraid to admit that there's something going on because of the social and moral issues that may be raised. But who cares? Love is love. Walang makakapigil if your heart already starts beating and sometimes you fall in love accidentally with the least person that you expected to fall in love with.

Tenth Situation: sex-centered rel. Ay naku! Isa sa mga sumisira sa isang relationship eh ang pagiging sobrang MAKATI! hahah! SEX can be the worst enemy lalo na if nde ikaw ang kasex ng partner mo. ayayayayay! But yes.. sex can be good if only two MATURE PERSONS understand the consequences of it. There are relationships that is just like a "let's get wasted, i love you for a night, goodbye, see ya tomorrow, let's do this again." It's like they are just connected sexually. But romantically? I don't think so. What's the best part in loving is when you can change the person from being so pathetic to being so loyal. It really feels good coz you know that this is LOVE. So, from being so MAKATI, eh you've helped the person to resist temptations just for you. Whatta feeling!

Eleventh Situation: Inconsistency. Ayayayay! I know some gurls are having a problem with boys for being so inconsistent pero don't blame all the boys because gurls can also be inconsistent. Mabuti lang sa simula pero pag pangmatagalan na eh ayun.. di na natutupad ang promises to each other nung nagliligawan pa. Ahoy! Ahoy! Ahoy! Promises are made to be broken so better not promise but put it all in actions not only through words. Always let your partner feel how special they are in your life everyday. It's sometimes uplifting and you feel there's nothing to worry about your relationship if each one is just open, and never forgets to acknowledge the presence of the boy/gurl in your life.

Again, this was just a repost of Kenneth's BLOG! :)